How to Tell Someone That She Is Dying - The New Yorker

This was a difficult read for me.  I've worked with doctors and surgeons for over 15 years and I know how seriously they take their work. I also know that they are only human and sometimes miss the point entirely, just like the rest of us. This article poses this question:

Is modern medical practice all about “patient knows best”? Or do physicians still need, on occasion, to cajole their patients into doing the right thing?

It's so interesting to me how alike disability and death are. Nobody likes talking about either one. Both are assumed to be the worst possible thing that can happen to a person.  And yet both give us an opportunity to talk about the part we have a say in.  What are the most important things to me?  How do I want to live out the rest of my life? Who will honor and support my decisions?